What We Really Mean When We Say “Non-Judgemental Housekeeping”
This week I’ve been thinking about judgement.
I’ve been knee-deep in building Another Mother’s new website, writing about our “non-judgemental service,” and found myself pausing — a lot — to consider what that actually means. Not as a marketing line, but as a lived practice inside real family homes, real emotions, and real seasons of life.
And strangely enough, the thinking started with a conversation about dating apps.
The Small Judgements We Make Without Noticing
My housemate and I were unpacking those classic little disclaimers people use:
“No offence, but…”
“Respectfully…”
“I don’t see race.”
That last one is especially tricky, because while it sounds kind, it’s actually dismissive. Seeing someone’s race matters — it helps you understand their context, the barriers they may face that you don’t, the lived experiences that shape their day-to-day life.
We ended up on the topic because we’re both on the dating apps at the moment. And if there’s a place designed for instant judgement… it’s there.
She won’t swipe right on anyone pictured with a dog (too much competition for affection).
I instantly swipe left if someone calls themselves “not political.”
But underneath those preferences is something deeply human. We are wired to judge.
It’s old, mammalian-brain survival stuff — a split-second assessment of safety, familiarity, belonging. We all carry implicit biases and unconscious patterns that shape how we interpret the world, often without realising it.
The point isn’t to pretend we’re above judgement.
The point is to understand what kind of judgement we’re talking about.
Objective Judgement vs. Personal Judgement
When I say Another Mother is non-judgemental, I don’t mean we walk into a home without noticing anything. That would be impossible — and unhelpful.
As housekeepers, we must make objective judgements.
The sink needs scrubbing.
The laundry will take two loads.
The toilet needs a deep clean.
There’s a sticky spill under the highchair.
These judgements are practical, not personal. They help us understand the work ahead, the time needed, the level of detail required.
What we do not engage in is subjective, moral judgement:
Not: “Your floors are dirty, so you must be lazy.”
Not: “Your laundry pile means you’re a bad parent.”
Not: “You’re clearly not coping.”
There is a huge difference between judging a space and judging the people inside it.
One is standard professional practice.
The other is harmful — and has no place in a business built to support families.
When Judgement Is Actually Care
There are rare moments when a different type of judgement is required — a professional, duty-of-care judgement:
“This home is unsafe.”
“This environment is unhygienic.”
“This family may need additional support.”
Even then, the focus is on conditions, not character.
It is never “These parents are bad.”
It is “This situation is unmanageable, and these parents deserve more support than they’re receiving.”
Most families in crisis aren’t failing.
They are being failed — by the systems meant to support them.
The Story Your Home Never Tells Us
Here’s the quiet truth:
We’ve always seen “worse.”
We’ve seen messier homes, chaotic seasons, overwhelm in all its shapes. Kids, work, life, grief, illness, fatigue, ADHD, neurodivergence, disability, single parenting, new babies, toddlers who refuse sleep, partners who travel, partners who don’t help, broken routines, demanding seasons… homes reflect it all.
A messy home is not a moral failing.
It is simply a sign of being human — often a human doing too much with too little support.
When we say “non-judgemental,” we mean it.
We clean the space. We care for the family.
And we never equate your home with your worth.
A Gentle Practice for This Week
Try noticing the judgements you make about yourself at home.
Write them down if it helps.
Then separate the practical from the emotional.
“The dishes are piled up, I’m behind again”
→ “Add dishes to tonight’s list.”
“The laundry mountain is huge, I’m failing”
→ “Two loads this weekend.”
“We’re such a messy family”
→ “Declutter the office Saturday; spare room before Christmas.”
The truth helps you take action.
The emotional judgement just makes you feel worse.
If You’re Feeling the Pre-Christmas Chaos…
Our Summer Specials are now open for December and January — perfect for:
• prepping guest rooms
• deep cleaning bathrooms
• getting the kitchen summer-ready
• tackling laundry mountains
• wrapping gifts
• decluttering before visitors
• or just getting a professional to reset the house so you can breathe
November is almost fully booked, but we still have availability in the lead-up to Christmas.
You deserve support. You deserve ease. You deserve a home that lets you exhale.
That’s what we’re here for — without judgement, always.
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Warmly,
Hannah x
Another Mother acknowledges the Whadjuk Noongar people as the Traditional Custodians of the land on which we live and work. We pay our respects to Elders past and present, and extend that respect to all Aboriginal and Torres Strait Islander peoples today. Always was, always will be Aboriginal land.
